by Martha Beck Comments by Marie.
1. Honesty Is the Best Policy.
When we weave webs of deception, we need to expend enormous mental energy to prevent them from tangling; as a result, we're left with less brainpower for solving real problems.
Let us not forget the stress that this deception creates. The ultimate result of being found out is definitely not worth the stress we have to endure because of the story we have created. We ruin our relationships with those who trust us, lose credibility with others, and also mistrust our own selves.
2. Give Up on Toxic People
Many people become wiser, calmer, and emotionally healthy with age and experience. Others display neither psychological health nor interest in changing. You may have already spent much of your life trying to get the love you deserve and need from someone in the second group. I'm sorry, but that love will not be forthcoming. Go find the people who are willing to love you.
Yes, definitely go find people who like you for who you are. We waste so much time trying to please others.
3. Let It Go!
According to neuroscientist Jill Bolte Taylor, PHD, when you feel an emotion caused by a negative event, it takes only 90 seconds to process the resulting stress hormones and reture to its baseline setting. Next time you're overwhelmend by a terrible situation, dive in for 90 seconds. Don't thing, just feel. It will be over very soon.
Our initial reaction is to hold our feelings in. And yet if we surrender to the feeling, we will be recovered in 90 seconds!
4. Trust Your Gut!
Complex thought has its place, but your senses are your most effective tool. Thoughts can "spin" our reactions to what we encounter, while the gut-deep impulses we get from instinct are usually more honest.
Learning to trust my gut has served me well. It takes time to listen, but it is worth it.
5. You're MORE Powerful Than You Know
We stumble into the delusion of powerlessness in our lives because we're afraid of how other people react if we did what we wanted. But it's our job to defy that fear, no matter what others many say or do, and to trust that love will carry us through.
We are made in the image of God. We have to remember that no matter what happens or how we feel, we are powerful beings capable of change and achieving the impossible.